Have you ever been pressured to make a decision when you weren't ready, or forced to answer someone's email or text instantly, having to drop everything you were doing just to satisfy that person's needs? 

If you've ever been interrupted while talking or overloaded with work without knowing how to say no, know that you were dealing with people whom I call "pressers." 

A presser demands immediate answers, dismissing other person's needs for time to think things through. The "presser" will almost never respect your natural pace and create unnecessary pressure. 

Some people thrive on being constantly on the go, making quick decisions and tackling multiple tasks at once. They take pride in their ability to act fast, and they may even view slower, more deliberate approaches as inefficient. 

Dealing with a person like this requires creating strong boundaries and self-trust to maintain your own rhythm. 

Just because you don’t move at lightning speed doesn’t mean you’re not efficient, organized, or a powerful action-taker. Your energy and your rhythm including your process are just as valid, and honoring them is key to maintaining your peace and well-being.

For example, in Human Design, I discovered that I am a Generator, which means my energy is designed to respond. When I learned that my Sacral center functions like a powerful engine, everything made sense—I finally understood why I felt stressed and drained when forced to make quick decisions instead of waiting for my natural response. 

If you’ve ever felt frustrated or out of sync with decision-making, discovering your Human Design type can reveal how you’re meant to navigate life with ease. 

The Myth of Speed = Success

Many people believe that success is tied to how fast you move. But speed without alignment can lead to burnout, mistakes and a constant feeling of chasing. You feel like you always have to be somewhere, answer all the messages and emails immediately, be there when things are happening and simply put, live in fear of missing out.

But here's the truth: Efficiency is not about how fast you go—it’s about how well you manage your energy and focus. And how well you manage your priorities. 

If you’re naturally someone who values a slower, intentional approach, trying to match the pace of a high-energy “presser” can feel exhausting and unsettling. And, it’s not that they are wrong in their way of being—it’s just acknowledging that what keeps you grounded and thriving is different from them.

How to Stay True to Your Own Energy

When you find yourself in the company of people who press forward at all costs, it’s important to have strategies that help you maintain your own energy and peace. Here are a few key ways to do that:

1. Acknowledge Your Own Efficiency

Remind yourself that your pace is not a weakness. Your ability to take thoughtful, aligned action makes you just as effective as someone who moves quickly. Efficiency is about doing things well, not just doing them fast.

2. Set Boundaries

If someone’s fast-paced energy starts to drain you, set boundaries around how much time you spend with them or the types of activities you engage in together. It’s okay to say no or step back when needed.

3. Don’t Absorb Their Energy

When around high-energy pressers, practice grounding techniques like deep breathing, visualization, or taking short breaks to recenter yourself. Imagine yourself in a protective bubble of peace that keeps their frantic energy from affecting you.

4. Communicate Your Needs

If a close friend or family member moves at a pace that overwhelms you, have an honest conversation about your needs. It may sound difficult because you might think that if you honestly communicate your needs to them you would hurt them, so let them know you value your time together but also need space to move at your own rhythm.

Respect Their Pace, But Stay Firm in Yours. You don’t need to prove anything by matching their energy. Appreciate their drive while staying grounded in your own approach.

Offer a Different Perspective. Sometimes, your slower, more intentional pace can be a gift to them. If they are open to it, invite them to experience your way of doing things and the benefits it brings.

Know When to Step Away. If being around a certain person consistently leaves you drained and out of alignment, it’s okay to create more space in the relationship or limit interactions to settings that feel comfortable for you.

Embrace Your Own Flow and Be Proud of It

Remember, success and fulfillment come from being in alignment with your own energy, not from trying to force yourself into someone else’s rhythm.

Honor your pace and protect your energy.

Moving in a way that feels natural to you is just as powerful as moving quickly.

To help you stay aligned with your own energy, I’ve created a free Energy Realignment & Reflection Check Guide. This beautiful guide will help you ground your energy, release tension and restore clarity through simple breathwork, visualization and journaling prompts. Click here to download now.